Perhaps one of the most common challenges in the postpartum period for a mother is her quality of support. So often in my one-on-one work with new moms, I witness the challenges they faced by not having or accepting the loving support of those around them. I noticed that my clients who are less likely to reach out for help, are the most likely to struggle with the stressors of having a baby. They feel tired, overwhelmed, annoyed, challenged by the little alone time they could salvage, resentful towards their partners, and isolated. They express deep shame and can easily spiral down the rabbit hole of comparison to other new moms who seemingly ‘have it altogether.’
We are so conditioned to be self-reliant and have an immense amount of resistance to open up, be vulnerable, and ask for help in times of need. I get it; I’ve been there so many times. But the reality is that there are so many people who have come before you and understand the stage you’re in. Having others to share your experience by allowing them to offer either emotional or practical support, is crucial in helping you feel less isolated. Generally speaking others can help with things in the arena of meal prep, companionship, childcare, and more. Support can come from a variety of resources. If you feel uncomfortable asking a friend, neighbor, or relative. Perhaps you can utilize professional services, be it prepared meal deliveries, a therapist or coach, a support group, a postpartum doula, a cleaning service, or a combination of all of the above. I invite you to take the first step.
What are 3 actions steps you can do?
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